Have you ever wondered what life would be like if you chose a different path? Never had children? Never gotten married? Took that opportunity to study abroad?
I am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason. When one door opens another closes. The path my life has taken has led me to where I am today. They say hindsight is 20/20. If I could turn back time there are some things I would do differently.
- Not get married so young
- Wait to have children
- Go away to college
- Major in something with job security
- Travel more
These are just a few of the life decisions I might have changed. But here’s the thing. Had I changed any one of these factors, my life wouldn’t be what it is. I wouldn’t have my son or my husband.
My husband is my rock - he treats me like a princess and is endlessly dedicated to providing for our family. My son has made me a better person and shown me what it means to be an individual without restraint or apology.
If my husband wasn’t around, there’s a lot of things I’d need to do differently. I don’t know how to change a tire, mow the grass, or clean the gutters. If I had a rat or insect infestation, I’d have to read this blog and find an exterminator. My husband handles all the bills, the taxes, and the mortgage. I’d be lost.
But in the same vein, I’d be forced to gain some much-needed independence. I would learn how to budget for the household expenses. I would become more capable of taking care of things that are currently outside my area of expertise. But the ironic thing is, I can accomplish all those things even now, with my wonderful doting husband at my side. And I should, to better myself.
If I had never become a mother, I’d still be stuck in a self-involved, unhealthy world where I placed too much importance on my appearance. When I became pregnant, I began to love and appreciate my body in a new and different way. I began to feed it with nutritious, healthy foods and gave it strength through regular exercise. I stopped body shaming myself and discovered self-love. If I had never had my son, I might be in a very different, dark place. He saved me from myself.
But that doesn’t mean I don’t still have regrets or wish I had done things differently. But I’ve accepted the path that I’ve chosen and I also know that every decision I make from this day forward will lead me to where I’m destined to be. I’m excited to see what this life has in store and who will cross my path along the way.